The aftermath of a relationship’s demise is a mental minefield. Emotions are in overdrive. Hormones go haywire. Self-doubt spikes. Self-esteem dive-bombs. It’s a tough gig to get up day after day, apply a touch of smile, a sweet scent of civility, and breeze unfalteringly through yet another routine day without raising suspicion that your soul […]
I love relationships. I love writing about them. I love experiencing them. I love learning about the people with whom I connect. There is nothing more rewarding than feeling another person open up and trust you, accept you for who you are, behold you with a sense of deep care and affection, and vice versa. […]
Ladies, hands up for those of you whose dating record includes at least one guy who handles break-ups with the epitome of immaturity. You know the type. The guy who immediately posts up pictures of himself with other women on Facebook, writes status updates slamming his ex or women in general, is blatantly rude to […]
“You were so hard on your ex-boyfriend. Every tiny little thing that he did wrong, you’d just bring the book down on his head. Hard.” That was something my brother said to me about one of my previous relationships. It has stuck in my head ever since. Of course, I didn’t see it that way […]
How many times have you been in a relationship that ended because you didn’t understand each other’s needs? It happens all the time. You may love someone dearly, but fall into the trap of loving them how you need to be loved instead of how they need to be loved. This is not a subtle […]
“You ask me if I love you, and I choke on my reply. I’d rather hurt you honestly than mislead you with a lie” – Sometimes When We Touch by Dan Hill When is the right time to say I love you? How long is a piece of string? Really, both questions make equal sense. […]
Chocolate cake. I love chocolate cake. Especially with really thick icing on the top and sides. Warmed slightly, with mouth-watering chunks of semi-melted chocolate throughout. Decorated with delicious chocolate shavings on top with a side tub of thick, rich, chocolate sauce. And a strawberry. Don’t forget the strawberry. As much as I adore chocolate cake, […]
Ever wondered why bad boys get laid so often, while nice guys get kicked to the curb? What is it about that guy you know is a no-hoper, but seems to be a total chick magnet? Enter the Bad Boy He’s that guy with the tattoos and piercings everywhere. The foul-mouthed smart-arse who says exactly […]
Are you the girl who throws an Oscar-winning hissy fit if your boyfriend dares to cast a cursory glance in another woman’s direction? Are you the guy who can’t handle your girlfriend hanging out with other men, spinning that lame “It’s not you I don’t trust, it’s them” crap? Do you feel upset if someone […]
Feeling happy is about following your heart rather than trying to fit some arbitrary ideal. Often, the major mental blocks to living the life we want are concern over other people’s opinions and our tendency to catastrophise future events. We place so much importance on these projections that we stifle our souls and sacrifice our […]