“The only reason you don’t have the relationship you want is because of the story you keep telling yourself about why you can’t have it.” – Tony Robbins Men aren’t attracted to me. There are better/smarter/prettier/richer/classier/more elegant/sexier/more successful women out there. Hmm…sound like a familiar internal dialogue ladies? Well, here’s the bad news: it’s true. […]

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“Where shall I begin, please your Majesty?” he asked. “Begin at the beginning,” the King said very gravely, “and go on till you come to the end: then stop.” – Lewis Carroll Like any good story, it’s hard to understand why relationships end until we understand why they begin. So we’ll listen to the wise […]

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I’m sick of this life. No, I’m not suicidal, thanks for asking. I mean my life is changing. Not just a little change. I’m talking dramatically. Massively. The type of change where I quit my job, pack up, and rack off somewhere for an unspecified amount of time doing unspecified activities with unspecified goals with […]

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“To hide the key to your heart is to risk forgetting where you placed it.” – Timothy Childers Opening up your heart again after being abused is something I’ve wanted to write about for some time. I haven’t done it because I haven’t had the experience. Until now. People enter your life for a reason, […]

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As a child and through my teenage years, I loved playing video games. I would go rent a game from the local video store and spend hours after school, on weekends, and during my holidays playing through games until I could beat it with my hands tied behind my back. I remember being horrified if […]

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Who are you? Really, answer the question. I’ll wait. In fact, I’ll answer it too. If someone asked me that question, for the sake of social convenience I would answer something like this: I’m Taz, a 20-something year old Brisbanite. I’m professional web designer/developer. I follow a vegan diet. I’m a former domestic violence victim turned […]

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Today I was reading the reflections of fellow personal development blogger Karen Bell when the following sentence stopped me dead in my tracks: All of a sudden I realised that one of the main reasons I’m attracted to personal development is a subconscious fear of not being “good enough” just as I am…I noticed the […]

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Abusive relationships are a perfect breeding ground for submissive tendencies and low self-esteem.  It is difficult to underestimate the effect of domestic violence victim’s deep, psychological scarring on future relationships. Re-learning to relate to people on a normal basis is not easy when you’ve been conditioned to accept abuse and rejection of your core being […]

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FACT: Women wear blinkers in relationships. FACT: The size of a woman’s blinkers increase in direct proportion to the number of red flags a man puts up. Okay, I’ll admit those facts may not have been scientifically established through stringent double-blind studies. However, I’m sure that you have been the shoulder to cry on for […]

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I’ve been flying under the radar the last couple of months after a rather preoccupied ride on that oscillating happy-sad rollercoaster called love. Now that I’ve got my own head around it, I think it’s time to share another one of my epic love-life case studies. I recently got knocked for six by one of […]

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