The aftermath of a relationship’s demise is a mental minefield. Emotions are in overdrive. Hormones go haywire. Self-doubt spikes. Self-esteem dive-bombs. It’s a tough gig to get up day after day, apply a touch of smile, a sweet scent of civility, and breeze unfalteringly through yet another routine day without raising suspicion that your soul […]
“You were so hard on your ex-boyfriend. Every tiny little thing that he did wrong, you’d just bring the book down on his head. Hard.” That was something my brother said to me about one of my previous relationships. It has stuck in my head ever since. Of course, I didn’t see it that way […]
Are you the girl who throws an Oscar-winning hissy fit if your boyfriend dares to cast a cursory glance in another woman’s direction? Are you the guy who can’t handle your girlfriend hanging out with other men, spinning that lame “It’s not you I don’t trust, it’s them” crap? Do you feel upset if someone […]
We often fall into the mindset that we have no control over our lives. Usually, we like to play victim when things aren’t going so well – maybe our job sucks, we’re overweight, we’re in an unsatisfying relationship, or we’re lonely. We’ll blame whatever shortcomings exist in our lives on our past, bad luck, or […]
Nobody is perfect. I know I’m not! There are times that we get so wrapped up in our own lives that we neglect and upset the people close to us without intending to. I’m going to tell you about a recent example from my own life where I screwed up in one of my friendships, […]
I am fortunate enough to come from a very tight-knit and loving family. My parents have been together for over 35 years and are still very much in love. Neither of my parents has ever laid a finger on the other. In fact, I’ve never even heard my parents yell at each other. They’re always […]
Every now and then, someone asks me for advice on their troubled relationship. I always feel honoured when people trust me enough to share their deepest feelings with me. I like listening to people, am fascinated by relationships, and I’m happy to discuss feelings and empathise until the cows come home. What I am wary […]