Relationship Jumping and Emotional Dependence

December 25, 2013

The aftermath of a relationship’s demise is a mental minefield. Emotions are in overdrive. Hormones go haywire. Self-doubt spikes. Self-esteem dive-bombs. It’s a tough gig to get up day after day, apply a touch of smile, a sweet scent of civility, and breeze unfalteringly through yet another routine day without raising suspicion that your soul […]


Love and Connection 101

October 26, 2010

Weird stuff happens whenever I feel disconnected from other people. Technology especially has an amazingly regular habit of malfunctioning. My Internet connection gets flaky. My mobile phone falls off the network and flat-out refuses to receive messages for days at a time. Saying I feel disconnected from other people is really just a synonym for […]


A New Direction

September 20, 2010

“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.” – Mother Teresa I used to think anti-war and pro-peace were the same thing. They are not. “Pro-peace” means in favour of peace. “Anti-war” […]


I Like Someone But They’re Better Than Me (and other such nonsense)

September 13, 2010

“The only reason you don’t have the relationship you want is because of the story you keep telling yourself about why you can’t have it.” – Tony Robbins Men aren’t attracted to me. There are better/smarter/prettier/richer/classier/more elegant/sexier/more successful women out there. Hmm…sound like a familiar internal dialogue ladies? Well, here’s the bad news: it’s true. […]


Ending a Relationship

September 8, 2010

“Where shall I begin, please your Majesty?” he asked. “Begin at the beginning,” the King said very gravely, “and go on till you come to the end: then stop.” – Lewis Carroll Like any good story, it’s hard to understand why relationships end until we understand why they begin. So we’ll listen to the wise […]


Inferiority Complex? Change Your Perspective

August 26, 2010

Feeling inferior is simply a result of your perception that you can’t live up to your own expectations or the expectations of other people. It’s paralysing, gnaws at your self-esteem, and is a downright unpleasant feeling to have around. Inferiority complexes are common among abuse victims because of the constant reinforcement that they are not […]


What Video Games and Relationships Have In Common

May 17, 2010

As a child and through my teenage years, I loved playing video games. I would go rent a game from the local video store and spend hours after school, on weekends, and during my holidays playing through games until I could beat it with my hands tied behind my back. I remember being horrified if […]


Do You Really Know Yourself?

March 14, 2010

Who are you? Really, answer the question. I’ll wait. In fact, I’ll answer it too. If someone asked me that question, for the sake of social convenience I would answer something like this: I’m Taz, a 20-something year old Brisbanite. I’m professional web designer/developer. I follow a vegan diet. I’m a former domestic violence victim turned […]


Am I Good Enough?

February 6, 2010

Today I was reading the reflections of fellow personal development blogger Karen Bell when the following sentence stopped me dead in my tracks: All of a sudden I realised that one of the main reasons I’m attracted to personal development is a subconscious fear of not being “good enough” just as I am…I noticed the […]


30 Day Trial Updates

November 8, 2009

No Caffeine and More Sleep Update Excluding caffeine from my diet has been great. I actually feel more alert through the day without caffeine. I get tired naturally at around the same time every night since I’m not screwing with my body chemistry. I’ve slipped up a couple of times with the sleep part of […]