Today I was reading the reflections of fellow personal development blogger Karen Bell when the following sentence stopped me dead in my tracks: All of a sudden I realised that one of the main reasons I’m attracted to personal development is a subconscious fear of not being “good enough” just as I am…I noticed the [...]
Abusive relationships are a perfect breeding ground for submissive tendencies and low self-esteem. It is difficult to underestimate the effect of domestic violence victim’s deep, psychological scarring on future relationships. Re-learning to relate to people on a normal basis is not easy when you’ve been conditioned to accept abuse and rejection of your core being [...]
FACT: Women wear blinkers in relationships. FACT: The size of a woman’s blinkers increase in direct proportion to the number of red flags a man puts up. Okay, I’ll admit those facts may not have been scientifically established through stringent double-blind studies. However, I’m sure that you have been the shoulder to cry on for [...]
I’ve been flying under the radar the last couple of months after a rather preoccupied ride on that oscillating happy-sad rollercoaster called love. Now that I’ve got my own head around it, I think it’s time to share another one of my epic love-life case studies. I recently got knocked for six by one of [...]
As much as I like to rant about the lack of chivalry in the general male population today, I must admit there is one area in which men beat us ladies hands down. I’m sure you’ve had those times in the street where you’ve had to walk out of your way to avoid colliding with [...]
How long does it take you to get over a break-up? It used to take me months! Now it can take me as little as couple of days. If you’ve ever been through a break-up, that time frame probably sounds ridiculously short, but learning to deal with break-ups more easily is all about understanding yourself [...]
This post was prompted from a discussion with my neighbour who had been single for a couple of years. Out of the blue, he asked what my perfect first date would be. Stumped, I realised I had never actually thought about it. I had no idea. On the other hand, he had about ten great [...]
Many women speak to me about finding the Perfect Man, but when I ask them what they want in a partner, or why they want a partner in the first place I’m generally met with a blank stare. How is your Perfect Man going to find you if you don’t even know what you want? [...]
There are a couple of qualities in a man that will make him stand out from the crowd and have a lasting impression on me. Those two things are respect and good manners. I used to work closely with a young man who was the epitome of polite. His manners were so impeccable that I [...]
I loved my Nice Guy very much. We had been together for four years, and close friends for six. We made one another laugh, had a similar sense of humour, and shared similar world views. We respected one another’s intelligence and had common interests, but were also happy doing our own thing. I had always [...]