A Man With the Guts to Take a Stand Against Domestic Violence

October 5, 2013

The role of men taking a stand against domestic violence is not commonly discussed in our culture, but Jackson Katz brings this issue to the forefront in his truly moving TED Talk. Sadly, the fight for equality has become unpopular in recent times. Women who stand up for their rights are told to stop whinging; […]


The “Fuck This” Moment in Abusive Relationships

December 11, 2011

Everyone has had a “fuck this” moment. It’s that moment in which you became painfully aware that you deserve more out of a relationship than what you are getting. Even emotionally-beaten domestic violence victims have fleeting moments where they realise their self-worth. I clearly remember the night that I was arguing with my abuser when […]


Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship

September 30, 2011

At first, it seems fairly innocuous. You’ve just started dating. You love each other’s company. You want to spend every moment together. It’s mutual. It’s normal. You feel so special, because your new guy wants to spend all of his time with you. Then it starts. Relationship Jealousy: The Red Flags You notice that he […]


Does He Love Me? Self-Esteem & Relationships

June 4, 2011

Congratulations! You’ve met the “perfect” guy. You have heaps of chemistry, but there’s a small caveat: he’s been “hurt in the past” and “isn’t ready for a relationship just yet” so you’re “taking things slow” and giving him plenty of “space” to “help him work through his feelings” without “pressure.” Oh! Oh! Let me guess…your […]


Relationship Reasoning

March 5, 2011

I took a sip of my soy chai latte as I listened to the woman sitting across from me. She was attractive – long hair, lovely figure, bright eyes, and a big smile. It wasn’t just her looks though. She was vivacious, bouncy, and friendly. This woman was smart and motivated. She had many interests […]


Why Nice Girls Love Bad Boys

January 14, 2011

Ever wondered why bad boys get laid so often, while nice guys get kicked to the curb? What is it about that guy you know is a no-hoper, but seems to be a total chick magnet? Enter the Bad Boy He’s that guy with the tattoos and piercings everywhere. The foul-mouthed smart-arse who says exactly […]


A New Direction

September 20, 2010

“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I’ll be there.” – Mother Teresa I used to think anti-war and pro-peace were the same thing. They are not. “Pro-peace” means in favour of peace. “Anti-war” […]


Inferiority Complex? Change Your Perspective

August 26, 2010

Feeling inferior is simply a result of your perception that you can’t live up to your own expectations or the expectations of other people. It’s paralysing, gnaws at your self-esteem, and is a downright unpleasant feeling to have around. Inferiority complexes are common among abuse victims because of the constant reinforcement that they are not […]


Am I Good Enough?

February 6, 2010

Today I was reading the reflections of fellow personal development blogger Karen Bell when the following sentence stopped me dead in my tracks: All of a sudden I realised that one of the main reasons I’m attracted to personal development is a subconscious fear of not being “good enough” just as I am…I noticed the […]


Submissive and Self-Defeating Mindsets

December 28, 2009

Abusive relationships are a perfect breeding ground for submissive tendencies and low self-esteem.  It is difficult to underestimate the effect of domestic violence victim’s deep, psychological scarring on future relationships. Re-learning to relate to people on a normal basis is not easy when you’ve been conditioned to accept abuse and rejection of your core being […]