Relationship Jumping and Emotional Dependence

December 25, 2013

The aftermath of a relationship’s demise is a mental minefield. Emotions are in overdrive. Hormones go haywire. Self-doubt spikes. Self-esteem dive-bombs. It’s a tough gig to get up day after day, apply a touch of smile, a sweet scent of civility, and breeze unfalteringly through yet another routine day without raising suspicion that your soul […]


How To Navigate An Emotional Break-up

July 30, 2011

Ladies, hands up for those of you whose dating record includes at least one guy who handles break-ups with the epitome of immaturity. You know the type. The guy who immediately posts up pictures of himself with other women on Facebook, writes status updates slamming his ex or women in general, is blatantly rude to […]


Does He Love Me? Self-Esteem & Relationships

June 4, 2011

Congratulations! You’ve met the “perfect” guy. You have heaps of chemistry, but there’s a small caveat: he’s been “hurt in the past” and “isn’t ready for a relationship just yet” so you’re “taking things slow” and giving him plenty of “space” to “help him work through his feelings” without “pressure.” Oh! Oh! Let me guess…your […]


Are You Fluent in Love Languages?

February 28, 2011

How many times have you been in a relationship that ended because you didn’t understand each other’s needs? It happens all the time. You may love someone dearly, but fall into the trap of loving them how you need to be loved instead of how they need to be loved. This is not a subtle […]


When to Say I Love You

February 20, 2011

“You ask me if I love you, and I choke on my reply. I’d rather hurt you honestly than mislead you with a lie” – Sometimes When We Touch by Dan Hill When is the right time to say I love you? How long is a piece of string? Really, both questions make equal sense. […]


Why Nice Girls Love Bad Boys

January 14, 2011

Ever wondered why bad boys get laid so often, while nice guys get kicked to the curb? What is it about that guy you know is a no-hoper, but seems to be a total chick magnet? Enter the Bad Boy He’s that guy with the tattoos and piercings everywhere. The foul-mouthed smart-arse who says exactly […]


Opening Your Heart Again

August 21, 2010

“To hide the key to your heart is to risk forgetting where you placed it.” – Timothy Childers Opening up your heart again after being abused is something I’ve wanted to write about for some time. I haven’t done it because I haven’t had the experience. Until now. People enter your life for a reason, […]


Submissive and Self-Defeating Mindsets

December 28, 2009

Abusive relationships are a perfect breeding ground for submissive tendencies and low self-esteem.  It is difficult to underestimate the effect of domestic violence victim’s deep, psychological scarring on future relationships. Re-learning to relate to people on a normal basis is not easy when you’ve been conditioned to accept abuse and rejection of your core being […]


Relationship Red Flags

September 6, 2009

FACT: Women wear blinkers in relationships. FACT: The size of a woman’s blinkers increase in direct proportion to the number of red flags a man puts up. Okay, I’ll admit those facts may not have been scientifically established through stringent double-blind studies. However, I’m sure that you have been the shoulder to cry on for […]


When Love Isn’t Enough

August 3, 2009

I’ve been flying under the radar the last couple of months after a rather preoccupied ride on that oscillating happy-sad rollercoaster called love. Now that I’ve got my own head around it, I think it’s time to share another one of my epic love-life case studies. I recently got knocked for six by one of […]