One thing that makes me cringe is the thought of settling. What makes a person settle for less than what they want in life, particularly in the way of relationships?
I can’t stand the thought of settling with a person if I’m not crazy about them. I’ve settled before and quite frankly, I’d much rather be single and spend my precious time elsewhere than waste it on a relationship where I get treated badly or one that has no future.
So why do so many women settle for unsatisfying relationships? They are frightened of ending up alone and lonely. They fear that they aren’t good enough to attract what they really want. They’re terrified that they’ll never find anyone better. They know deep down they are worth more than what they are getting, but they either don’t have the confidence to admit it, or the courage to leave.
So, how can you avoid being a woman who settles? The answer is to realise your self-worth. Love and respect yourself. You spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week in your own company. If you don’t love yourself, how can anyone else truly love you?
List the things you like about yourself. What are your good qualities? Perhaps you are an attentive and empathetic listener who people can open up to easily. Maybe you’re a great storyteller who can keep everyone at a party enthralled. What are your talents? Do you play an instrument beautifully? Are you a great cook? Can you dance well? Look upon your achievements and commend yourself for them. To achieve them, you displayed diligence, self-discipline, and commitment – all wonderful qualities for a person to have.
What if you really don’t feel like you’re worth loving? Rubbish. Everyone has something worth loving about them. What do you dislike about yourself specifically? Why don’t you like it? Is it a real problem, or merely something that has been socially conditioned for you to dislike? Is it something you can work on improving? If you had to improve it, what would be your first step? Now, get out there and do it, and you’ve just demonstrated proactivity and resolve.
Women with high self-worth don’t settle. They have their standards and know they don’t have to accept anything less. If one of their relationships becomes unsatisfying, they will be proactive in making it satisfying. Women with high self-worth have the confidence to ask for what they want, because they know they deserve it. They feel worthwhile enough to have their needs met. They also have the courage to let go of unsatisfying relationships. They know it’s only a matter of time before they attract bigger and better things into their life.
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